Have any of you felt as if your pride was hurt because of something you loved? Have you ever had someone shut a door in your face because of how you felt you weren’t “good enough” for their company? If you have ever felt this kind of emotion, you aren’t alone.
I know the feeling of rejection, or to refuse to accept, consider, submit to, take for some purpose, or use, according to Merriam Webster’s definition of reject. For those who know me, I am someone who has a passion for three things: helping people, writing, and media. I’ve been this way for a long time, in fact since I was a child. This is the reason why I am in the field of Journalism and Media Studies and my goal for myself is to either become a broadcast journalist or go into the field of public relations.
Many people also know me for my blog as well, which is fine lol! But, what many people do not know or even anyone at all is that I’ve been rejected. Plenty of times, to be quite exact. When I say it is the worst feeling in the world to be rejected, it hurts like hell. But, it wasn’t just for anything. It was for the chance to work in some of the top companies with journalism, such as Complex Magazine, Billboard, Global Grind, Rolling Stone, etc. As a matter of fact, I was rejected to work for Complex, Billboard, and even Global Grind.
The day I got those emails hurt. As a matter of fact, it was on a Friday afternoon when I got all of those emails sent to me all in one. “The position has been filled,” “You did not meet our qualifications,” and “Please search our website for more positions,” were the top three things I saw in all three of the rejection letters I was sent via email.
I sat there just quiet, while my talented and amazing friend, Jocelyn, was sitting on her phone. She noticed that I was crying and upset. (Which I rarely display to other people) When she asked the “What’s wrong” question, I showed her the email and she just stayed quiet with me for a few moments.
The emotions that I felt when I received it was unexpected, but dreadful. Why, you were wondering? Well, during that time it was because my passion was to work for those three companies and potentially gain more experience within the field of journalism. In fact, my heart felt like a Mac truck going 100 miles per hour, then eventually crashing into a wall. It hurts as well because when you have a passion for something and for someone to not accept you is the worst feeling in the entire world.
But, there was one thing I learned from my friend: being rejected isn’t a bad thing. It only means that you have to work harder and really do more in order for you to really be able to have more success. At first, I did not listen because I was thinking about how heartbreaking it was to not be able to work for a company that you really wanted to work for. It’s just like reading a rejection letter from the college of your dreams: it crushes your heart and makes you feel like you weren’t good enough to work there. But, she was right: I have to work extremely hard for what I want in order for me to be truly successful.
Now, let’s get one thing straight: I’m NOT THROWING SHADE, SALT, WHATEVER TO THE COMPANIES I GOT REJECTED FROM. As a matter of fact, I thank them and their rejection letters. Because even though I’m not qualified for their company, they are one of the many reasons why I push myself to work hard and why I want to become successful, for myself.
In conclusion, if you’ve ever been rejected for a job, school, etc., it really is okay. Does it hurt whenever you feel like you’re not wanted by that place? Absolutely. But, use it as a motivational tool to push yourself to the limit you can take yourself to be able to become truly successful. Now, I’m not saying you should throw it in their face and gloat whenever you gain the amount of success that you do get. However, use the tools needed to get to where you need to be and don’t let any rejection stop you from pushing forward and rising to the top.